Thinking about buying one of our realistic sex dolls or already have one sitting in your bedroom, waiting to be enjoyed? Whether it’s your first time or you’ve had a few in the past, using a sex doll properly is about more than just jumping straight in. From unboxing to cleaning, there’s a right way to do things if you want it to feel amazing, last longer, and stay safe to use.
In this guide, we’ll take you through every step of using your sex doll — the prep, the play, the aftercare, and even the mistakes to avoid — so you can get the most out of your investment.
Contents:
- 1. Choosing the Right Doll for You
- 2. Unboxing & Preparation
- 3. How to Have Sex with a Sex Doll
- 4. Safe & Pleasurable Positions
- 5. Cleaning & Aftercare
- 6. Storing Your Doll
- 7. Common Mistakes to Avoid
1. Choosing the Right Doll for You
Before we even get to the “how,” it’s worth making sure you’ve picked a doll that suits your needs. The two main materials you’ll find are:
- TPE (Thermoplastic Elastomer): Soft, flexible, and ultra-lifelike, but porous, meaning it needs more careful cleaning and maintenance.
- Silicone: More durable, non-porous, and easier to clean, with incredible detailing, but a little firmer and usually more expensive.
Consider size, weight, and features as well, from basic models to dolls equipped with heating systems or articulated skeletons for more realistic positioning (much like the SoloFun BodyBabe).
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2. Unboxing & Preparation
When your doll arrives, take your time unboxing. Use clean hands or gloves to avoid transferring dirt or oils, and handle it gently to prevent any accidental scratches.
Before your first use:
- Give the doll a full wash with warm water and a mild, fragrance-free soap or toy cleaner.
- Dry thoroughly with a soft, lint-free cloth, especially around the orifices.
- If your doll came with a wig, brush it gently and fit it securely.
- Apply a light dusting of renewal powder to keep the skin feeling silky.
This not only makes the first session more hygienic but also helps the doll feel its best from day one.
3. How to Have Sex with a Sex Doll
Lube is your best friend here. Always use water-based lubricant with TPE or silicone dolls — oil or silicone-based lubes can break down the material and shorten the doll’s lifespan. If you want to make cleaning easier, you can use a condom, but it’s optional.
Most dolls offer three options: vaginal, anal, and oral. Here’s how to make the most of each:
- Vaginal: The most popular choice, often designed with internal textures that mimic the real thing. Apply lube to both yourself and the entrance, guide yourself in slowly, and enjoy the natural-feeling resistance.
- Anal: Tighter and often with a different texture. Use extra lube here to avoid friction damage. Insert slowly and avoid forcing positions that strain the hips or knees.
- Oral: Perfect for fantasy play and usually a little shorter in depth than the other orifices. Best enjoyed in seated or standing positions, supporting the doll’s head to avoid strain on the neck joint.
Position the doll comfortably on a bed, sofa, or chair before you start. If you’ve got a heated model, switch it on ahead of time so the body feels warm and lifelike. Treat the session like a real encounter — build up slowly, change positions if you like, and let yourself get immersed. The more realistic you make the experience, the better it feels.
4. Safe & Pleasurable Positions
One of the joys of a sex doll is experimentation, but you also want to avoid damaging the skeleton or tearing the material. Here are a few safe favourites:
- Missionary: Easy on the joints and great for eye contact.
- Doggy Style: Popular for a reason, but support her weight to avoid stress on the knees or hips.
- Spooning: Ideal if you want something more intimate and low-impact.
- Seated or Standing (with support): Works well if the doll has a strong internal frame — just avoid forcing joints beyond their range.
Always move limbs gently and never push against resistance — the internal skeleton is sturdy but not unbreakable.
5. Cleaning & Aftercare
Cleaning your doll after every session is non-negotiable. Here’s the quick process:
- Rinse the orifices and body with warm water immediately after use.
- Use a mild, unscented soap or sex toy cleaner with a soft sponge or irrigator.
- Rinse thoroughly to remove all soap residue.
- Dry with a soft, clean cloth and allow the inside to air-dry completely (you can use an air pump or drying stick).
- Once fully dry, dust lightly with renewal powder to keep the skin smooth.
Neglecting this step can lead to mould, bacteria growth, and unpleasant odours — not exactly what you want next time.
6. Storing Your Doll
Proper storage keeps your doll in good condition for longer. Options include:
- Hanging storage: Using a hook to suspend the doll reduces creasing or flattening.
- Specialised stand: Keeps the doll upright and stable.
- Lying flat: Works if you don’t have space to hang, but change her position occasionally to avoid pressure marks.
Keep her in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight. Remember to also avoid leaving tight or dark clothing on her for long periods, since it can cause staining or deformation.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
- Skipping the first clean: Always wash before and after the first use — factory residues can remain on the material.
- Using the wrong lube: Stick to water-based only.
- Forcing joints: This can break the skeleton and ruin the doll’s range of motion.
- Neglecting drying: Even tiny amounts of moisture can lead to mould inside the orifices.
- Improper storage: Heat, sunlight, and cramped spaces can permanently damage the material.
Ready for Some Fun?
Using a sex doll isn’t complicated, but doing it right will make a world of difference to your experience and your doll’s lifespan. Treat her with care, keep her clean, and you’ll have a reliable, realistic companion for years to come.
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