Do you want to spice up your love life? Pocket pussies aren’t just solo toys. With the right attitude and a bit of curiosity, they can become a playful, intimate part of your sex life together. Whether you’ve been a couple for years or are just starting to explore new ways to connect, adding a toy like this to foreplay can build trust, spark excitement, and enhance pleasure for both partners.
Contents
- Why Couples Are Turning to Shared Toys
- Breaking the Ice
- Ways to Use a Pocket Pussy Together
- Choosing the Right Sleeve for Couples Play
- Hygiene and Aftercare
- Why It Works
Why Couples Are Turning to Shared Toys
More couples are experimenting with mutual masturbation and shared toys as part of their sex lives. Relationship and sex therapist Tracey Cox says, “Couples who play together stay together. It’s about keeping things new and collaborative rather than routine.” A pocket pussy offers exactly that: a way to blend mutual pleasure, visual stimulation, and closeness.
Unlike vibrators or other toys that focus on one partner, a sleeve invites both to participate. It’s not a replacement for intimacy but a bridge that lets you explore each other’s reactions in a new, exciting way.
Breaking the Ice
The idea of using a pocket pussy together can feel unusual at first, especially if one partner associates it with solo play. The key is communication. Talk about curiosity rather than “needing” something new. Frame it as something to enjoy together, not a fix for what’s missing.
You might start by introducing it during a light conversation about fantasies or favorite sensations. When it feels natural, bring it into the bedroom without pressure. Curiosity and laughter go a long way toward easing tension.
Ways to Use a Pocket Pussy Together
There’s no single “right” way to use a pocket pussy with a partner, it’s about what feels good and comfortable. Below are a few expert-approved ideas to get started:
1. Partner-Controlled Play
Let your partner take control of the sleeve while you focus on sensation. They can experiment with rhythm, angle, and pressure. This gives them a chance to explore what feels best for you while watching your reactions, which is a major turn-on for many couples.
2. Guided Masturbation
This is a great option for couples easing into shared toy use. You control the sleeve while your partner watches, touches, or kisses other parts of your body. It creates an atmosphere of intimacy and visual connection while removing the performance pressure of traditional sex.
3. Dual Stimulation
Combine the pocket pussy with oral or manual stimulation. For example, your partner might use their tongue or hands in sync with the sleeve, alternating between natural touch and toy play. The mix of textures and sensations can be overwhelming in the best way.
4. Roleplay and Tease
For couples who enjoy roleplay or power dynamics, the pocket pussy can become a tool of teasing control. Your partner can use it to edge you, stop and start, or keep you on the edge of release until you can’t take any more. It’s a playful way to explore trust and surrender.
5. Temperature and Sensation Play
A quick trick to make things more realistic: warm the sleeve in hot water before use. The heat mimics body temperature and feels incredibly lifelike. You can also add a few drops of cooling or warming water-based lube for contrast. Small sensory changes like these heighten excitement for both of you.
Learn more about which lubes are best to use with pocket pussies in our guide.
Choosing the Right Sleeve for Couples Play
When using a pocket pussy as a couple, look for a design that’s easy to hold and control. Hard-case sleeves such as the Tenga Flip or Fleshlight series are ideal because they offer a solid grip and allow for adjustable suction. Soft, open-ended sleeves work well too, especially if you want to incorporate them during oral or manual play.
You don’t need anything complicated to start, just something that feels good and can be used comfortably by both of you. Always pair it with a toy-safe water-based lubricant to ensure a smooth, friction-free experience.
If you need more guidance on how to choose a pocket pussy, we’ve shared tips to pick the right one for your size.
Hygiene and Aftercare
Sharing toys means sharing responsibility for cleanliness. After every session, rinse the sleeve thoroughly with warm water and a mild toy cleaner, then let it air dry completely. Make aftercare part of the intimacy. Wash the toy together, cuddle, and talk about what you enjoyed or what you’d try differently next time. These small rituals build connection as much as the act itself.
Why It Works
When both partners are involved, using a pocket pussy goes beyond physical pleasure. It becomes about mutual trust and exploration. It removes the taboo around solo toys and turns them into something shared, open, and fun. Many couples say it helps them communicate better about what feels good and this is something that carries over into all aspects of their sex life.
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